This is a very serious situation and can be very destructive to any relationship. Giving the cold shoulder, as we say, only builds resentment on both sides. The silent treatment is actually a form of ostracism. Basically, when someone is ostracized it affects a part of the brain that detects pain, so you are inflicting [...]
To forgive someone who has hurt you in some way is sometimes the hardest thing you may ever do. I have seen over the year’s people who take grudges and resentment to the grave. Examples of un-forgiveness are Brothers against brothers, sisters against sisters, families at war over the simplest things. Sometimes after years, they [...]
Date nights or date days with your partner are meant to be a special time for just you and your partner to be alone. It is the time you get to have and share in intimate conversation together “without outside distraction or interference.” It is a time where you can feel safe to share with [...]
What is Dyslexia? Dyslexia is a disorder involving difficulty in learning to read words, letters and other symbols. If you have Dyslexia it can and will affect your relationships and your entire life. Dyslexia literally means “trouble with words”. I am Dyslexic myself, so I will try and give you the reader as much help [...]
The Mental Health Profession and Australian Professional Counselling Services categorize depression as a mood disorder. We recognize that its symptoms can vary widely from one person to another. It is also accurate to think of depression as a complex problem that can affect many different aspects of the sufferer’s life. I know this because I [...]
Co-dependency, or co-dependence, co-narcissism, or inverted narcissism, is an unhealthy relationship dynamic. It is a tendency to behave in overly passive or excessively care taking ways. It happens when one or both partners in a relationship tend to lead too much of their lives through the other person. This negativity impacts one’s relationships and quality [...]
What is communication? Communication is the process of giving and receiving information. People do this by discussing ideas, sharing options, explaining what you want, expressing your feelings, and resolving conflicts with others. Communicating is something that we learn to do from the time we are born. The way we communicate is learned from our parents [...]
In every relationship, we have our own boundaries. They are guidelines, rules, and limits. Your boundary may be that you won’t tolerate being lied to, or put down. When your personal boundaries have been crossed you feel as though you have been taken advantage of or used. When someone’s boundaries are not clear it is [...]
It triggers! The ultimate responsibilities for an angry reaction both begin and end inside of an individual. The responsibility for anger and response to that anger rests with the person. If your anger is always about somebody or something outside of your control, change will not happen. Shifting the cause of anger is used by [...]
Over many years counselling couples, I have witnessed the devastating effects that substance abuse has had on family life. Substance abuse, which tends to be the main cause of family breakdowns, can vary from the overuse of prescription medication, illegal drugs or alcohol abuse. In our society, it is government supported, and they claim huge [...]
