In every relationship, we have our own boundaries. They are guidelines, rules, and limits. Your boundary may be that you won’t tolerate being lied to, or put down. When your personal boundaries have been crossed you feel as though you have been taken advantage of or used.
When someone’s boundaries are not clear it is difficult to have healthy relationships. Instead one partner tends to take too much on board and becomes miserable, then blames their partner or others when things go wrong. You need to be clear in what you want and take responsibility for your own needs, self-esteem and happiness. Then and only then will your relationships become healthier. If others cross your line you need to let them know immediately in an assertive way to avoid conflict. For a relationship to be healthy you need space and personal boundaries so you are allowed to be yourself. Co-dependent relationships have particular difficulty in maintaining boundaries, and for them, it is essential to learn to define and protect your boundaries in effective ways. For ways to improve your life and relationships, I recommend downloading a copy of “Secrets to a Romantic Love Affair in One Week” for a start. Day 3 will really help build your Love Bank. The book is filled with exciting tips, suggestions and information on how to increase your love for your partner at an optimal level.