In the past 20 years in Relationship Counselling Sunshine Coast, I have seen many control freaks.
Recognising control freaks in a relationship.
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They are basically all around us. Very often you will come across someone intent on dominating everyone around them including you. They are a person who lack the ability to consider the feelings, needs and interests of other people. Also, while reading this, have a good look in the mirror at yourself.
The need to dominate develops when a person feels week, threatened and in secure. Even though dominating people in a relationship like to have everyone think they are strong and confident; in reality they are cowards. The dominating person, while thinking they are in control, is in reality out of control.
They are pushed along by the unconscious forces of childhood conditioning, fears and insecurities most times created by their parents. You know someone wants to control and dominate you when they: force their opinion on you; won’t listen to other points of view or just switch off when you are talking. They don’t give you a chance to speak; put you down or attempt to make you feel small or treat you like a child.
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A dominating person in a relationship tries to exert control over you by taking up your time.
Continuing to talk to you after you want to leave; checking your mail or texts and phone messages; bossing you around and telling you what to do all the time. In my 20 years as a Relationship Counsellor on the Sunshine Coast, these are some of the telltale signs:
Asking you to do something then changing their mind suddenly, then getting angry at you for not fixing their problem. They keep you waiting; controlling you through their emotions; and demanding attention are all ways this is done. A dominating controlling person tries to take control by invading your space.
For example, taking some of your property without asking, building too close to your boundary without consent. Pushing into a queue; blocking your driveway; or intruding into your space by being noisy; smoking in front of non-smokers are just some examples. More information on relationship counselling.
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The dominating person fails to even consider the affect their actions have on their spouse, children, neighbours, or anyone else.
Their selfishness, lack of sensitivity and need for power, means they are unable to have genuine friends and healthy relationships. When the negative results of their inconsiderate attitude and behaviours come back to haunt them, they blame others.
Dealing with these people is an ongoing challenge, so it’s important to develop high self – esteem and boundaries so you can better stand your ground and assert your rights. If you are in a relationship with one of these people, it is best to get as far away from them as fast possible before they totally burn you out and whatever self-esteem you have left will be taken leaving you a burnt our wreck. Contact Coach Robert.
Phone Robert Chambers on 0409 380 375 for help to learn how to deal with these people.
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โฅ๏ธ๐๐ง๐๐ข๐ฏ๐ข๐๐๐ ๐๐ญ๐ญ๐๐ง๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง:
Counselling Sunshine Coast Couples Counsellor Robert P Chambers asks ๐๐จ๐ฐ ๐ฆ๐ฎ๐๐ก ๐ญ๐ข๐ฆ๐ ๐๐จ you ๐ง๐๐๐ ๐ญ๐จ ๐ฌ๐ฉ๐๐ง๐ ๐ญ๐จ๐ ๐๐ญ๐ก๐๐ซ as a couple ๐๐จ๐ซ ๐ ๐ก๐๐๐ฅ๐ญ๐ก๐ฒ ๐ฆ๐๐ซ๐ซ๐ข๐๐ ๐.
Before you read this, I let you know I’m not in a fantasy world I’m in the real world ok. My first question to couples seeking help now is. Is your marriage in good health? Do you have time to be married? Or in a relationship as a happy couple?
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MY PARTNER GIVES ME THE SILENT TREATMENT; WHAT DO I DO?
By coach Robert P Chambers
I have been couples counselor on the Sunshine Coast for 26 years now and I tell you.This is a very serious situation and can be very destructive to any relationship, partnership or marriage. Giving the cold shoulder, as we say, only builds resentment on both sides.
Contact Robert: Telephone: 1300 782 214
