A Marriage Counsellor on the Sunshine Coast helps couples and individuals strengthen communication. The experience of the Coach will help to rebuild trust and create lasting relationships.
Do you seriously and honestly want to save your marriage or relationship with the one you love, is that correct? Good; you know WHAT you want. The only question left is WHAT am I going to do to fix it?
HOW will you restore your marriage or relationship today that’s the big question.? Isn’t it!
A NEW START.❤️
RENEW YOUR MARRIAGE TODAY: 50 WAYS TO TALK AND TOUCH
Relationship and Marriage Counsellor on the Sunshine Coast
Everyone WANTS to renew their marriage. We hear that every day. But very few people don’t have a clue how to go about it and get it right. As a marriage counsellor on the Sunshine Coast, I have the experience to make it right.
Let’s be totally clear about one thing first. It only happens through ACTIONS. You’ll never talk your way out of a situation you BEHAVED yourself into. This was because of bad attitudes and behaviors I guarantee you ok.
You must act. It doesn’t matter how many psychologists, therapists or traditional counsellors you see. The same as how many sessions you have had, nothing will change unless you listen to what is here. I said LISTEN.
Okay, but what actions do I need to take now! First you need to fix yourself. You cannot get your marriage or relationship back unless you get yourself back first by changing the way you think.
Now let’s start….
Within the next 24 hours, I want you to try Talking and Touching as much as possible with your partner. Even if you hold resentment, or they hold resentment against you.
Talk for a 60 Second Positive Verbal Interaction.
A Talk for a 60 second. This is to be a positive verbal interaction with your partner about a NON- LOGISTICAL matter. Not about bills or worries, or the negative past to loosen up it can be done anytime and anywhere.
It’s a fun or frivolous chat. And you do NOT need your partner’s cooperation. If necessary, you talk, they listen. A voice mail can even work or video chat.
Touching is similar, but it uses touch instead of talk. Touching must be a loving physical gesture with your partner. It’s not foreplay or an advance for love making; it’s just a touch for the sake of connecting.
If you’re separated or your partner is resistant, the solution to this problem is discussed with me in a session.
I had private sessions with a lady by the name of Julie (definitely not her real name). In one of our sessions, I noticed that Julie was resistant to incorporating Touching and Talking into her relationship with her husband. This was because of her resentment towards him.
She kept trying to change the subject many times. She said she wanted to discuss “bigger” matters and the past. Like many couples I see they want to take their fight from home to the office.
I couldn’t imagine why she was so hesitant to do these 2 SIMPLE things.
Finally, I challenged Julie and said, “Julie, what’s the problem? Eventually, Julie told me why she didn’t want to talk about Touching and Talking to her partner John. “My marriage is horrible because of his lying and cheating”, Julie said. “I need a HUGE solution. I just don’t think talking and touching is going to make a difference in any way.”
Couples Counsellor Sunshine Coast
Julie expressed a common thought. But as a couple’s coach and marriage counsellor on the Sunshine Coast for the last 26 years she couldn’t be more WRONG.
I explained.
You can’t turn your marriage around with one lovely event. There’s no gift you can give, favour you can do, or letter you can write. When your marriage is on the rocks, it’s common to want to “microwave” But you can’t. There’s no quick fix no fairy wand.
There’s no one thing you can do or say that will turn things around. It took YOU BOTH years to get into this mess; it will take time for you both to resolve it. And most likely your marriage box or love bank is empty.
What’s the way out? Listen carefully.
Failed marriages eventually succeed because at least one spouse partner commits to doing SMALL THINGS. Small deposits in your love bank. These deposits are over an extended period not just done to get them back then go back to your old self. That won’t last.
I’ve seen this happen many times as a relationship couples counsellor on the Sunshine Coast over 26 years.
REAL Change Connection in your Marriage
Do you want REAL change connection in your marriage? Or take the easy road and walk out. This will be most likely right into another bad relationship where you don’t get your needs met.
Then establish the RIGHT HABITS and do them CONSISTENTLY. I said CONSISTENTLY. Not a half-hearted attempt, that just won’t work!
Talk and touch every day not when you think about it every now and again.
For example…..
Julie and i discussed that if she would talk and touch REGULARLY, she would see a difference in her marriage in a few weeks. Or I guaranteed Julie that if I was wrong, I would personally Go to Her house and do a full day “house call”. Work with Julie and her husband at no charge. Julie agreed to try.
I’ve still never been to her home for a full day OR even half a day.
It’s always been said to my clients “take great comfort in knowing that ALL great feats are accomplished one step at a time.” TAKE THE SMALL STEPS! They make a BIG difference I assure you it works magically.
Do you remember when you used to just talk? Not about who’s going to pick up the kids, make the dinner, or pay the bill. I mean just talk for the sake of talking.
That creates intimacy and bonding. If you don’t have intimacy in a relationship, you cannot have a healthy loving relationship or marriage. Therefore, you’re like most couples, to have that health relationship you need to start talking again.
Tell your partner about your dreams. Share your fears. Even tell a joke. Talk about the interesting person you met today or the experience you had jogging in the park.
And remember to smile 😀 as smiling attracts people. You both most likely did all these when you first met.
Just talk!
In the morning before you part for the day, share something with your partner. In the middle of the day, call your partner and just talk to them.
You don’t have to be all sweetsie if you don’t want to. But make sure you don’t discuss anything logistical like bills. And don’t fight!
Fighting won’t help at all it will drive them further away, just talk! Deposit love points slowly into their account like you hopefully did when you first met.
You and/or your partner probably feel you don’t get enough attention from each other. As discussed, it could be that you need to talk more. But you also probably need to touch more.
Marriage Counsellor on the Sunshine Coast
Try not to make yourself so busy. I find that many couples in 2023 as a marriage counsellor on the Sunshine Coast people are so busy making money. They are constantly working or on their phones they don’t have time for a marriage or relationship anymore.
REACH OUT AND TOUCH YOUR PARTNER TODAY BEFORE ITS TOO LATE ❤️
Try a warm kiss or a gentle rub. Stroke their cheek or play with their feet. It only takes a moment, but the positive energy can carry you through an entire evening.
If you’re separated or your partner is resistant to your touch, the solution to this is discussed in my sessions when you see me. Find out their love languages first and apply every day.
Marriage and Special Moments
There are moments (if you do it RIGHT) when your partner knows that you are completely connected with them. This is when you caress your partner’s hand, play with their feet, rub their shoulders, or stroke their cheek.
Fill your marriage or relationship with a few of those moments each day and your relationship will begin to change. I guarantee you in the first week if you let go of any grudges you may have you will notice the change.
I will teach you how to let go of these grudges in one my sessions. Resentment is like rust in a car, hard to remove if it gets a hold of it.
Now listen carefully I don’t want to leave you hanging. Wondering what you’re going to say and how you’re going to touch. I figure if there’s 50 ways to leave your lover, there must be at least as many ways to touch or talk to them.
51 WAYS TO TALK AND TOUCH LIST ❤️
- Express an amount of confidence in one of your spouse’s decisions. And be sincere.
- Share dessert with one fork or a spoon.This gets you closer.
- What was “your favourite song” when you were dating? Call your spouse and sing it to them.This will surely light up there day.
- Surprise visit your spouse at their office or home and give them a kiss… and then leave.This will definitely spice up your romantic lives.
- Play footsie under the table next time you sit together at your favourite restaurant.
- Learn a new joke today and share it with your spouse. Laughing is great for a loving marriage.
- Ask how your spouse’s day went… and really listen. People love to be heard these days. Especially women.
- Kiss your spouse upon waking is a lovely and beautiful way to start the day.
- Kiss and hug your spouse before sleeping a lovely way to close the day.
- Caress and hold your spouse’s hand whenever you can. Especially on a date. What better way to connect.
- Touch your spouse’s cheek or hand while driving. So, they know you’re with them.
- Rub shoulders next time you sit next to each other what a lovely feeling.
- Sit on your spouse’s lap or sit them on yours and put your arms around them.
- Compliment something your spouse is wearing in a lovely way.
- Call your spouse when they are least expecting to let them know you are thinking of them
- Give your spouse a neck or shoulder massage or ask if they like a full body massage. This is a great way to bond and relax your partner
- Share a story from the news or a new movie of your day that you thought was interesting.
- What about dancing before dinner? No one’s looking. Lovely connections.
- Tell your spouse that if you had to do it all over again, you’d choose them. Make them feel special each day.
- Share a problem – thank your spouse for their concern. That they were listening to you.
- Play with your spouse’s hair or ears while talking in bed affectionately.
- Fall asleep holding hands and hugging.
- Remind your spouse to drive safely and come home safe next time they leave the house
- Call your spouse at work with the latest news or movie. So, they feel important.
- Have a tickle “fight” Or a good wrestling match. To just have fun.
- Say “I apologise” about a mistake you recently made that may have hurt there feelings.
- Think of 3 ways your spouse has made you a better person … tell them now.Don’t wait another day.
- Compliment your spouse on your favorite physical trait 29. Play Twister and let yourself laugh out loud. No better way to get close is there😜
- Look at your spouse when they are unaware of your gaze … share your feelings. They will love you more, I’m sure.
- Share what you most admire about your spouse your partner. It shows you really care.
- Have a “remember when?” moment. Excellent for showing them you haven’t forgotten those special moments.
- Thank your spouse for helping you through a challenging moment or time in your life. Great for bonding.
- Find a good reason to touch your spouse when you are in the same room as simple as it may be.
- Dig out the wedding album and reminisce it really shows you care about your life over the years together.
- Hold hands under the table at every opportunity.
- Brush your mate’s hair out of his/her eyes showing you really care about them.
- Straighten his tie, being sure to touch him with love and understanding.
- Button or zip her dress, being sure to touch her with love and understanding.
- Knead the same dough together while preparing that favourite meal.
- Kiss in the elevator when no one is looking secret kisses are so romantic.
- Express confidence and understanding in your spouse’s ability to overcome a problem definitely helps their self-esteem.
- Listen I mean really listen to your spouse’s worries – ask how you can help every time.
- Make your spouse’s lunch for the day … deliver it with a kiss on the lips. Sealed and delivered with a kiss. 💋
- Send your spouse a text with your special “code words” for I Love You! This will definitely brighten up there day.
- Turn off your spouse’s alarm clock…wake them with a lovely massage of love.
- Kiss the back of your spouse’s neck while he/she is reading or washing the dishes.
- Before parting, tell your spouse you can’t wait to see him/her again and tell them to be safe.
- An extra hug for no particular reason at all never hurt anyone and will add love points definitely.
- “Spoon” your mate while sleeping. This is a great way to get touch and close bonding in a healthy relationship and marriage.
51. Never use phones or devices in the bedroom. The bedroom is for healthy sex, intimate conversation and sleeping.
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